Thoughts are not your problem!

​None of us would want to be 'thoughtless' individuals.

None of us would want to lose the ability to use our mind wisely.

So the question is:
"Are you mindfully using your mind wisely, or are you caught up in habitual patterns of painful thinking?

Practicing mindfulness meditations is how we learn to know the difference, and choose where to place our attention.

If I’m thinking of a ferocious man eating tiger, a ferocious man eating tiger is not in the room with me in that moment. It’s only a thought that is happening.

​If I’m thinking worryingly about a difficult conversation I’m going to have tomorrow, I am not having that conversation with the other person in that moment of thinking. It’s only imagination. It’s imaginary worrying, painful thinking that's happening.

If I’m thinking regretfully about something that I did yesterday, maybe feeling shame as I go over and over the details of a mistake I've made, in that moment of thinking I’m not making that mistake. It’s only a memory. It’s a regretful, painful memory thinking that's happening.

In the present moment, the past and future events I'm thinking about are not happening. The content of the thinking is not real in that moment. They are only thoughts. 

That’s not to dismiss the reality of things that have happened or might happen. Events happen. They impact us, we feel them, and we learn from them. But if we habitually rehearse them or repeat them or ruminate on them, then we can become entangled in our own mental scenarios and suffer painfully. 

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Humans have all kinds of thoughts. Some are useful, and some are not useful.
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Some thoughts can create a lot of anguish in our lives. Habitual negative thoughts of fear, sadness, anger, revenge, lust, arrogance, and delusion can reinforce and deepen negative neural pathways in our mind. 

But we also have beautiful thoughts creating wisdom, understanding, and curiosity that cultivate beautiful qualities of learning, compassion, generosity and love which ripple out from our hearts and minds into the wider world.

​Humans have all kinds of thoughts. Some are useful, and some are not useful.
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Some thoughts can create a lot of anguish in our lives. Habitual negative thoughts of fear, sadness, anger, revenge, lust, arrogance, and delusion can reinforce and deepen negative neural pathways in our mind. 

But we also have beautiful thoughts creating wisdom, understanding, and curiosity that cultivate beautiful qualities of learning, compassion, generosity and love which ripple out from our hearts and minds into the wider world.

Thoughts are not your problem! 
None of us would want to be 'thoughtless' individuals.
None of us would want to lose the ability to use our mind wisely.
So the question is: "Are you mindfully using your mind wisely, or are you caught up in habitual patterns of painful thinking?
We have the ability to mindfully choose.

Each day most humans can become caught up in habitual, unhelpful patterns of thinking - things we wish we weren’t thinking. At other times we’re engaging with the wisdom, compassion, kindness and virtue of our mind. 

It’s important for the quality of our life to know the quality of our thoughts and if those thoughts are beneficial or harmful to us and others. Ancient teachings from thousands of years ago, and modern day neuroscience research learning, demonstrates that what we frequently think about, will become the inclination of our mind. So if we’re frequently thinking and pondering upon negative thoughts, we’re unconsciously deepening the natural negativity bias of our human mind.

Practicing mindfulness meditation is how we learn to know the difference, and choose where to place our attention. In the 'doing nothing else' of a meditation practice, we can observe the quality of our minds thoughts and understand that there is nothing to fear from thoughts filled with memories or imagination.

We can learn that there’s absolutely no problem with the thoughts of wisdom and clarity, reflection and kindness, and commitment and virtue. We can rest back in the present moment and simply be aware that thoughts are there.

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You could start practicing this right now, wherever you are in this moment.
When you notice yourself caught up in thinking - whether it’s a memory, a worry, or a judgment - just gently and silently label it for what it is. There's no need to engage with or analyse the content of the thinking, just name the category of thinking.

For example:

• If you're replaying an argument from yesterday, just say to yourself, 'Ah there's Thinking!'
  
• If you're worrying about a deadline tomorrow, just say, 'Ah there's Planning!'
  
• If you're regretting a past mistake, just say, 'Ah there's Memories!'

This simple act of labelling thoughts creates a tiny bit of space between you and the thinking. It helps you recognise that you are not your thoughts; they are simply separate, mental events passing through your consciousness. It's a powerful way to practise being mindful - 'Deliberately being aware of what's happening, as it is happening, and without forcing it to change'.

Remember this: Thoughts are not facts, and feelings are not instructions. You are not defined by what you think or feel. You are the awareness that notices thoughts and feelings happening when passing through the mind.
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The goal of mindfulness is to stop ourselves suffering from thinking, not to stop the thinking! 

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